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How To Break Bad Habits Once And For All… Right Now

The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your habits. Have enough good ones and you’ll be successful. Accumulate too many bad habits (such as biting your nails or excessive email checking) and you are headed for disaster.

The big question is how to break bad habits? Why do you have them in the first place? How long does it take to break a habit?

This video training provides all the answers:

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In this video, I’m going to show you how to break bad habits once and for all.

But before we get to the system, I want to give you a little secret.

Your life is directly proportionate to the quality of your habits.

If you have good, healthy, productive habits and you have enough of them, you’re going to be happy, you’re going to be healthy, you’re going to be productive, you’re going to be successful.

And the opposite is also true: too many bad habits are going to prevent you from accomplishing your goals. What’s worse about bad habits is that they waste your energy and they waste your time. Every day you have a limited amount of time and you have a limited amount of energy and willpower, and when you put both of these to a bad activity, to an activity that doesn’t really serve you, you’re essentially wasting them.

I want to show you a very simple 5-step system for eliminating your bad habits. But before we get to the system, let’s talk about the main reasons why you have bad habits in the first place.

Why You Have Bad Habits

While there are many reasons, they essentially can be boiled down to two main ones: stress and/or boredom.

I know it sounds too simple. Stress and boredom. But think about it: when you sit in front of the TV and you have the pile of junk food, it’s because most likely you’re bored, or when you check your email all the time or your social media, it’s because you’re bored. Or at the end of the day, you’re overwhelmed, you’re stressed out, you reach for that cigarette. It’s because this helps you de-stress.

Once you understand this, once you get into the mindset that bad habits are a way to deal with stress and boredom, it makes it that much easier to actually put this system to use and break bad habits.

How To Break Bad Habits

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#1 – You Don’t Eliminate Bad Habits, You Replace Them

And now for the interesting part, for the juicy part of the video: how to eliminate bad habits. Let me give you another secret:

Bad habits cannot be eliminated, they can only be replaced.

There is a very, very logical reason for it. Bad habits serve some sort of a purpose. They have some sort of a benefit. Maybe the benefit is very small when compared to the downfall, but there is always a benefit present.

When you wake up in the morning and the first thing you do is reach for that cell phone and check your email, you know it’s bad, but it makes you feel included. It makes you feel less alone. It makes you feel like you’re not missing out on the news, on your latest gossip, on your friends, on your family. It gives you that little burst of happiness. You know it’s bad, but there’s always that little benefit.

Or maybe at the end of the day, you go for a quick smoke. You know it’s bad, you know it’s unhealthy, you know it doesn’t really help you in any possible way – but for those 3 minutes that you have that smoke, you feel in control. You feel not stressed out, you feel happy.

There is always a benefit, even if it is completely outweighed by the negatives. And that’s why you cannot eliminate the bad habit; you can only replace it.

Sometimes we make ourselves feel bad, because you know it’s bad, so you’re saying to yourself “Why can’t I just stop it?” You know smoking is bad, you know junk food is bad, you know excessive checking of social media is bad – so why can’t you just stop it? Because there is a benefit. Because these actions serve a purpose, and you cannot eliminate something that serves some sort of a purpose. You can only replace it, and I’m going to show you exactly how to replace to do it.

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#2 – Figure Out The Habit Trigger

Figure out what the trigger for your bad habit is. All habits, whether they’re good, whether they’re bad, whether they’re neutral, all of them have some sort of a trigger. A trigger can be a place, it can be a time, or it can be a person.

Let’s say every time you go to the bathroom, you grab your cell phone and you stay 30 minutes in the bathroom because you’re checking your email or you’re being on social media. That might be triggered by the fact that you’re going to the bathroom, so it might be the place. Or every lunch break, you go for a smoke with your coworkers. The trigger can can be the time of the day, or it might be the people.

Figure out what the trigger for your bad habit is. Maybe you’re biting your nails every single time you watch TV, so the trigger in this case would be the place, or the activity of watching TV. Figure out what the trigger is. Figure out, is it a place? Is it a time? Is it people? Or it might be a combination of all the three.

#3 – Eliminate The Bad Habit Trigger

Once you figure it out, I want you to eliminate it or minimize it. Because if you eliminate or minimize the trigger, it makes it that much easier for you not to go into the habit. If you have a cookie after lunch, throw out all the cookies. If you don’t have cookies at your home or at the office, you’re not going to reach for them. Or if you’re used to grabbing your cell phone immediately upon waking up, don’t leave your cell phone in the bedroom. Leave it in some other place, so this way, even if you reach for it, there’s nothing for your hand to grab. Or if you have a smoke with your coworkers during your lunch break, maybe try to change the group of coworkers. Go with some other group, or don’t go with them; have a lunch break earlier or maybe later.

Minimizing, or completely eliminating the triggers for your habits will make it much easier for you to overcome bad habits.

#4 – Choose A Good Substitute For Your Negative Habits

Even if you eliminate or minimize the trigger, you’re going to be eventually faced with going back to your old habit. So figure out some activity that gives you the same benefit, but it’s not bad for you.

Maybe after lunch, you reach for that cookie – you still need to substitute it with something. Instead of cookies, maybe reach for a fruit or a vegetable or something more healthy for you. This way, you still have the benefit of finishing your lunch with some sort of a dessert, but it’s not a smoke or it’s not some sugary food, but it’s something healthy for you.

Choose a substitute. Maybe in the morning, you reach for your cell phone, but now your cell phone is not there because you eliminated the trigger. Put something else there. Maybe put a glass of water. A glass of water is good for you in the morning. Or maybe substitute this activity with turning around and giving a kiss to your spouse or going and playing with your kids for 10 minutes or walking your dog. Whatever that might be, figure out some sort of a substitute that’s going to bring you that little benefit, but it’s not bad for you.

#5  – Plan For Failure

Regardless of what happens, you’re always going to slip into your bad habit eventually. Plan for it. Don’t feel bad about it. It’s a habit you created over many months, maybe sometimes years, so you’re going to fail. You’re going to go back to your old habit one time or two times. Don’t chastise yourself. Don’t be like, “Oh my God, I’m so stupid. I cannot believe I did this.” It happens.

When it happens, just give yourself a pat on the shoulder and say, “I’m human. I’m not perfect.” Welcome to the club. Nobody is perfect.

So plan for failure. Don’t kill yourself with bad thoughts. Don’t be like, “Oh, I did it, I failed. I’m going to go back to my old ways for good.” You did it once, you did it twice; it’s okay. It happens. It’s a normal part of the process. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep on using the system. You’re going to eliminate your bad habits.

It will take some time, because you created these habits over many months, sometimes years. It will take some time for you to break them, to substitute them with new healthy ones. But think of that time as investing in yourself. It’s an investment in you, and that’s the best use of your time. When you invest in yourself, you’re making yourself better.

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Over To You Now

That’s how you break a bad habit. First of all, you cannot break it; you can only replace it. Figure out what the trigger is. Eliminate the trigger. Choose some sort of a substitute activity. And then plan for failure, because it will happen. Don’t beat yourself up. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, keep on going. Use this simple system. It works. It’s going to help you break your bad habits.

Question: what are some of your bad, negative habits that you can put this system to work on? Leave me a comment below.

I want to know what your bad habits are, and how you’re going to use the system to break those bad habits.

“Successful By Design Lab” Member Extra

Access your “How to Create New Habits and Stick To Them”  video lesson in Successful By Design Lab.  

Breaking bad habits is just 1/2 of the habit process. In order to be success, you also need to learn the other half: the habit formation one. This training goes in depth into exactly how to do it.

Click here to access this 24-minute video.

Not a Lab member? Click here to learn more about SBD Lab.